By Chelsea Franks

Rejection is a topic most people can relate to experiencing at some point, especially in college. Times like being turned down for an organization or a job that you wanted, or not being able to get into the major you had planned. Rejection doesn’t feel good, and it can actually alter how we think of ourselves. I’ve definitely struggled with rejection in my life, but for me, the primary place I struggled was with my family.

I have struggled for a long time with knowing my true worth in God, I have always felt like I had to please everyone to earn their love and approval. This never worked, because in my family no matter how well I thought I was doing I was still always disappointing someone.  What I have just recently started to realize is that this is not the case, I shouldn’t have to please people to feel loved when I have God who loves me unconditionally and my worth is found in Him.

“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8: 37-39 (ESV)

Rejection does not define you. You can’t let it. If anything you should allow it to refine you. You can use rejection as an opportunity for growth, that’s the perspective I have been trying to take with my past and present rejections. Viewing my rejections as a chance for betterment has allowed to me to grow in my relationship with God. By turning to him and looking at my past hurts, seeing how I can heal and forgive in that situation has really helped me to begin to realize my worth and feel more confident in myself.

“…so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” -Ephesians 3: 17-19

The pain from past hurts and rejections might be holding you back.. I know they were  holding me back, and if I’m honest sometimes still do. But instead of looking at them as a negative set back, I now work on giving those hurts to God, working towards forgiveness, and recognizing opportunity for growth in those situations. Don’t get me wrong, it isn’t just as simple as being aware of the hurts and getting rid of them. It’s a process that takes time, and can even be painful. However, the freedom that comes with healing is so beyond rewarding!

I hope this can be an encouragement for you to not allow your rejections to define you, and most of all to know that you are so loved  and worth so much more than that!